I don’t want your ‘yes.’ I don’t want your ‘no.’ I want what’s real for you.” I’m pretty sure my mouth dropped open at that point. He continued, “When you’re in your truth, I get to be connected with you. And therefore, we automatically lose contact with the other person.
But if you fall away from your truth — if you do something that you don’t want to do, just to make me happy — then our connection gets lost. Truth is the only way for us to feel known by the people we care about. When we focus on pleasing others — which I’ve done my whole life and you might have, too — we lose contact with ourselves. You can’t feel connected to someone else if you aren’t connected to yourself.
Someone who's always nice, helpful and a basic moral support for just about anyone.
Suppresses his (or her) own needs in order to please or satisfy (the needs of) others.
Never a doormat, never a push-over, just a version of myself that was tailor-made.
The act of people pleasing sounds innocuous enough, evoking the image of a happy person with good intentions, a normal person who’s perhaps a little needy.
But after being raised by a people pleaser, having close friends as people pleasers, and being one myself, I’ve come to have a fundamentally different view.
The people's pleaser won't bother you with his or her own needs and problems, as this person is too keen on helping out others. In fact this is what girls should look for in a guy when looking for proper/stable "relationship material" (I guess), however, in some way this hardly ever results in a woman being either physically or sexually attracted.
A people's pleaser is more likely to be put in the friends zone straight away, without even being considered dating material.